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This is our story: Ryan and I were set up on a blind date by my sister and his sister-in-law. I was living in Utah at the time and he was in Washington. We went on a fabulous date to dinner and an Arena football game. It was great and Ryan loved that I knew what was going on and loved sports. At the end of the date he asked if he could see me the next day before I left to go back to Utah. We played games with his family the next night and had a great time. We talked for a long time that night and wondered when we could see each other again. And he kissed me good night!
Ryan called me every day that week and one day he asked if I would go to a concert with him on a Tuesday night. I didn't think there was anyway that I could fly up and go, but I worked it out that I would fly there on Tuesday and fly back to Utah on Wednesday. It was great to see him again. He flew to Utah a couple weeks after that. We were just hitting it off so well. One night as we were talking he opened up. I knew that he had had cancer and had been through so much a few years earlier. We had talked about that, but this night he went into much more depth--especially the side effects of all the treatments that he had undergone. He told me how he would probably never be able to have biological children and he asked how I felt about adoption. This kind of shocked me, but I cared about Ryan and wanted to pursue this relationship. I wasn't going to end things because of this news. And adoption had always appealed to me.
We continued our long distance relationship. In June, after about 6 weeks of going back and forth, I made the decision to move to Washington to be closer to him. Timing of the blind date was perfect so that I could make this decision. I had recently graduated from BYU and was working at two part time jobs that I could easily leave. In July I moved to Washington. I found a job and in August Ryan proposed. We were married in October. From the first date to our wedding was not quite 6 months. I swore I would never do that, oh well, he was the right one, at the right time, in the right place. We went on a cruise for our honeymoon. It was awesome! After being married for about 6 months, we both individually decided that it was time to add to our family of two. We knew that we would need to see the fertility specialist and do in-vitro fertilization (IVF) in order to have a baby. As we went through the IVF treatments, we had all the faith in the world that it was going to happen. The doctor told us that there was not a very good chance, but we had faith. Unfortunately it didn’t work. We were completely heartbroken.
Over the next few months we had to grieve with the loss of the child we never had.
We eventually felt blessed that without being married a year, we knew that we were infertile and didn't have to deal with the month to month pain of not being pregnant. By the end of the year we were ready to start the adoption process. When we called LDS Family Services, they told us that we would have to wait until we had been married for two years before we could proceed. We asked for them to make a special exception, but they couldn't. So we waited.
Ryan and I filled out all the paperwork and did all the necessary things to get approved for adoption. After we were approved we told everyone that we knew that we were trying to adopt and asked them to help spread the news. A little over a year after we had been approved we got an email from my aunt who lives in another state. She told me that she knew someone that was pregnant and not married and was considering placing her son for adoption. My aunt had shared with her our blog and information. Our sweet Julie read it and felt like we were to be the parents of her little boy. She emailed a couple of days and we read the sweetest words: “I've read your blog and it really touched me. Ever since I found out I was pregnant I never felt much like it was supposed to be mine. Please let me know if you can consider adopting my son. I know you will be a great choice.” We immediately felt so peaceful. We started emailing back and forth and building a relationship with her. We visited her a few weeks later and she immediately felt like family. About 3 months after she contacted us for the first time, she called us to let us know that the baby was going to be born that day. We jumped on the next flight and made it to the hospital a few hours after our sweet baby Lucas was born.
We spent time in the hospital with Julie and we met Lucas’ birthfather. We had a great time getting to know him and his family. We really cherished the time that we got to spend with Julie and Scottie and their families. When Lucas was 11 days old we flew home to Washington. We were so happy to be a family of 3!
Lucas is such a happy boy. We love being his parents! He is now 2 years old. We are now hoping to add another child to our family. We want him to be a big brother.



We have met with our caseworker and filled all the necessary paperwork and completed the background checks. We are now approved for adoption and looking for our next child! We are so excited for what the future will bring!
"The Lord compensates the faithful for every loss. That which is taken away from those who love the Lord will be added unto them in His own way. While it may not come at the time we desire, the faithful will know that every tear today will eventually be returned a hundredfold with tears of rejoicing and gratitude." -Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin "Come What May, and Love It"
Showing posts with label Vacation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Vacation. Show all posts

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Vacation and Surgery

We ran away last weekend to Vashon Island. We had a great time.




It was so beautiful and we just enjoyed being there together. We stayed in a nice little cottage on the harbor (the one in the middle with all the stairs).




Ryan had surgery on his shoulder a couple of days ago. It has been hurting for quite a few months and when he went to his doctor, we found out it is the same thing that happened to his hip joints. The blood is not flowing to it as well as it should and so there are parts of the bone that are dying. They went in a drilled a couple of holes to hopefully get the blood to flow it a little bit more. He is recovering well and will have to wear a sling for a few weeks.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

A Blind Date started it all...


Four years ago, Ryan and I went on our blind date. It soon turned into so much more. He is so wonderful and I am so grateful to have such an amazing husband.

He is such a great uncle, too. At Max and Henry's robot birthday party this is Ryan:



We have now had over 3,000 views on our profile (only about half are me, just kidding). And although we don't know when we will be parents, we are very excited for the future. I have a feeling that it will be someday soon.

We are going on a little trip this weekend. We are staying in a little cottage on an island in the Puget Sound. Of course we will be going to a Mariner game and do a lot of relaxing. It should be a great trip.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

71 people, 41 pies, and so much fun

Pies, pies, and more pies
Lots of us playing games


I love Thanksgiving. I love going to my Grandma's for Thanksgiving. She lives in a small, small farm town. Ryan and I decided last minute that we were going to go, and luckily it all worked out so that we could go. There were 71 people for dinner! And we had 41 pies! We played lots of fun games. It was a great time to be with my family.
Another great part of this year is that my best friend and family just moved to the same small town as my Grandma. Random and crazy that they live there. I got to hang out with her and it was so fun. I went to visit them in Indiana last year and now it is so nice that they live closer. I can't wait to go visit them again.
We also have a great family tradition for Black Friday...We go to the temple and as a family we participate in sealings and the younger kids do baptisms. There were 49 members of my family that attended the temple. We did 221 sealings, 240 baptisms, and 240 confirmations. We were in a sealing room with my parents, three of my sisters and their husbands. It was such a great experience. We got very emotional as we thought about taking our children to the temple someday and being sealed to them. What an amazing blessing that will be. I love them temple and I am so grateful to know that families can be eternal because of the temple.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Cruise!

To celebrate our 3rd Anniversary we went on a cruise. We left from Long Beach, CA and went to Catalina and Ensenda, Mexico. My sister and her husband went too. They were celebrating their 9th anniversary. We had so much fun! The food was so good. Karen and I got the same dessert every night, the warm melting chocolate cake. It was the best!



We are already planning our next cruise. Loved it.

Monday, August 17, 2009

Family Reunion


We just got back from a great family reunion. It was my parents, sisters and their husbands and kids. There was a total of 16 adults and 13 kids. We all stayed in an 8 bedroom log cabin near Heber City, Utah. We had so much fun. A few highlighs: Pioneer Heritage Park, watching the meteor shower, Snowbird-alpine slide, zipline, and chairlifts, canoeing, boating, and lots of good eating! Thanks to Gina for organizing so much of it. It was wonderful to be all together!


Michelle and Toby at Pioneer Heritage Park



Zane loved the animals



Daniel and Reagan at the pioneer school




Toby, Maren, and Reagan on the train





A few familiar scenes--all the girls in the kitchen talking




Breakfast and the kids in booster seats





Abby and Ryley--are they really playing chess?






Ryan and my mom with some of the kids in the canoe right by our cabin





Maren, my mom, Reagan, me, Kaylee





The coveted white elephant present that I got! The "You are Special" plate. Ryan will be getting this plate for random things like taking the garbage out and unloading the dishwasher!





Two of the cutest boys, Zane and Skyler






Ryan B. and Melanie on the chair lift




Jill and Kirye





Braden and me on the zipline





Maren (squealing) and my mom on the alpine slide





Amazing view!






Some of the family





My dad, mom, Maren, and Elyce





Toby doing flips





Rockband, we may not have too much musical talent, but we can play Rockband





Kaitlyn-cutie pie





Mel and me on the tube




Reagan, Toby, Abby, Kirye, and Ryley: Sandcastle




Ryan on the tube


Tuesday, July 7, 2009

The 4th

Four of the seven sisters



A pancake breakfast and neighborhood parade, both organized by my sister, a great way to celebrate the USA




Fireworks and family out at Ryan's uncle's lake house



I love America! I had a hard time deciding which patriotic shirt to wear. I decided on the I heart Sparklers. I think on July 3rd I wore my olympic shirt that matches Ryan's shirt.